Gift of Mourning

Posted: August 12, 2012 in Talk Notes
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Mourning is healthy and necessary to the healing process. If we deny or delay our grieving, we deny or delay our healing.
-Keith Smith

James 4:9

Common Defenses Used to Protest Ourselves from Pain:

1. Denial (or selective forgetting)
– Minimizing
– Blaming others
– Blaming yourself
– Rationalizing
– Distracting
– Becoming Hostile
– “Spiritualizing”
at times people think that pain (from evil) is something that God allowed because He has a great plan, when really, it was the way of the world, how it was the devil who had something to do with it.

Not taking time to grieve by being irritable, hostile, etc.,

How Do We Grieve or Mourn Over Our Losses?

1. Accept the Pain or Loss
2. Acknowledge the fact that NO LOSS is UNIQUE

1 Corinthians 10:13
(no temptation is unique to one man)

1 Peter 5:8
(how others go through the same kind of suffering)

2 Corinthians 4:16
(though our outward man is

3. Admit your NEED for OTHERS in times of LOSS

2 Samuel 1:11
(how David mourns)

Roman 12:15
(rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn)

4. Actively seek CLOSURE
5.Anticipate God’s COMFORT and LOVE in time of Loss.

5 Stages of Response to Death

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
– asking God to bring it all back in exchange of doing thing for Him
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
– There is no way for us to go through healing without going through grief; without mourning.

Isaiah 53:3
(how God understands and even Jesus mourns)

Job 42:10
(how Job- after trials- God blessed Him twice as much as he was before)

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